You have interesting things to offer this world! Don't apologize for having new ideas or for being a little out of the box! Profuse apologizing is very prevalent, mostly among women. Why do women feel the need to undermine and apologize for everything they say?
Okay, so I have a confession to make. I have a big problem with apologizing. For everything. My mom can't find something in her purse? "Sorry!" My teacher gave me someone else's test? "Sorry!" Someone pushes me out of their way in the hallway? "Sorry!" Sending an email? "Sorry to bother you!" In fact, according to my parents, at parent-teacher conferences, every single one of my teachers said that I apologize too much. Why do I think that everything in the world is my fault?
I, like other women (I know I'm technically a teenager, but I have a vagina and identify as female, so I'm grouping myself in with the women), also have a problem with undermining what I say. Participating in a socratic seminar in history class? "I probably sound super naïve, but..." Asking someone a question? "I was just wondering..." Offering a new idea in a meeting at school? "I don't mean to impose..." Yes I did! I 100% meant to offer that idea, even if the conversation didn't initially include me.
I often don't sound naïve or stupid when I talk, as I try to know enough about what I'm talking about to make sense. I wasn't "just" wondering. I had a legitimate question! Other people's problems and issues aren't my fault. I don't need to apologize for them. I also don't need to apologize for asking someone a question, or sending them an email, or even just existing.
We need to stop undermining ourselves and apologizing for who we are. We have important things to say. All that energy taken up by saying "sorry" and adding extra words like "just" or "stupid" could've been spent writing a novel or giving a speech or painting an amazing piece of artwork.
I'm #sorrynotsorry. What about you?