While woman and girls are expected by society to be beautiful, emaciated sex objects; men and boys are expected to be tough, strong, almost emotionless rocks.
Boys are told day in and day out that they should be "real men," who only care about "scoring chicks" and getting high. The suicide rate of boys is going up to three or more a day because they don't feel that they fit in with this demographic. Sensitive boys, who feel that there is more in life than being a "real man," are being bullied horribly, and this is leading to the suicide rate increasing dramatically. Basically, they are being bullied for not being a total dick. Some men, to prove to society that they can "man up," and that they "have balls," are even resorting to violence, such as shooting and beating.
"The three most destructive words that every man receives when he's a boy are 'be a man.'" American society has invented a way to make boys feel insecure in the fact that they are masculine, and as a result of that, they feel that they have to prove it all the time to fit in with the social norm. Young boys are shaping themselves to fit in with all the other young boys in their community, (so there is a common notion of being masculine), and they forget what they really want in life from themselves and from others. As they grow older, they have been shaping themselves for so long that they forget how to remove this "mask" of false security in one's masculinity, and they remain the way that they were forced to be.
As I stated before, these boys are shamed for being sensitive, or even just showing some emotion, because it doesn't fit in with society's acceptance of masculinity. Because of this, they have all these feelings inside of them, just building and building, that they go crazy. This is part of the reason for the suicides and the violence. And most of these boys, when they feel this depression and anger, they refuse to get help because it would show that they are not just this tough, emotionless being. Less than 50% of boys with mental health challenges seek help.
It is horribly wrong what American society is doing to these boys. We are molding them to be people that they are not, and when they show even tiny hints of who they really are, we shame them until that hint disappears forever.
The Representation Project